Your seven-year old’s personality is a bit more complex than at age six. At age seven kids quiet down and become more pensive. It’s as if seven-year-olds have a mini identity crisis and need a break from all that six-year-old get-up and go. They need time to think about things and reflect on life as they know it. You may notice your seven year old wanting more alone time or a private space in the house they don’t have to share with anyone else. One reason seven-year-olds are more withdrawn than they were at age six is, they’re beginning to question their childhood fantasies. They start having doubts about childhood beliefs such as Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny. Seven-year-olds are easily disappointed. For example, your child’s clearly annoyed when you refuse to drive during a snowstorm. After all, you promised her you’d take her to the mall and, “it’s only SNOW”! Seven-year-olds sing the blues when things don’t turn out as they expected. Most of the time they want things their way and not just at home. They’ll refuse to play the “stupid” game with their friends if the rules don’t meet their approval. They feel it’s their way or the highway and they’ll let you know it, in no uncertain terms. Also, at seven years of age kids tend to be insecure and feel they don’t fit in or aren’t accepted by the family. Don’t be surprised if your child builds a case against you for neglecting them and favoring their siblings.
Your Seven-Year-Old: Changes
The most significant changes in the brain occur at age 7. The most notable being that the frontal and temporal lobes, which control cognitive functions, grow enormously – more than at any other time in a person’s life. And at the same time, these lobes are making neural connections with the system that controls emotions. In other words, both thinking and feeling get a major overhaul.
There are four main areas to look for change:
- Cognitive and Educational Areas: At seven, your children start using more words and their talking improves. also, they remember more– whether it be vocabulary, or homework assignments.
- Verbal development increases: Although vocabulary increases for both genders, boys are less verbal than girls their age, It’s typical for girls to write and speak more words than their boy peers.
- Emotions: You’ll see increased emotional development. Seven-year-olds become more sophisticated in handling their feelings and attach more words to those feelings. Seven-year-old boys will tend to cry less than girls and will try to handle suffering by not showing weakness. Girls are more apt to cry to get help. Instead of withdrawing, they reach into their bonding system and let their emotions rise to the surface.
- Relationships. At this age, kids typically add at least one more relationship or friendship to their life. Girls may form more relationships than boys, but they are more fickle about them, which is normal. Your daughter’s best friend today may be her enemy tomorrow. Boys form fewer relationships than their female counterparts, but usually these friends will stick.
- Morals. For the first time, kids develop a sense of justice and can better understand the balance between fair and unfair. There is not much difference between boys and girls here, but girls have a wider threshold for what is good or bad. Boys have more physical impulsiveness at this age. Boys will try to physically show love to others at this age, because they don’t use as many words. Via education.com
7 Social and Emotional Traits of Your Seven-Year-Old
- Seven-year-olds start to experiment more with handling their emotional and social lives independently; they show they can take some initiative socially and they have the capacity to understand others’ actions and feelings.
- They’re still reliant on you for their sense of security. However, they can communicate needs in more sophisticated ways, such as using more words than at age six.
- At seven years of age children’s self descriptions are based on external characteristics and behavioral characteristics and traits. For example, “I like to play ball and I have a cat”. They’re beginning to understand and compare their strengths and weakness; “Math is hard but reading is easy”.
- Your seven-year-old can adjust his or her emotions and control impulses in most situations. However, when under stress, tired or feeling insecure, they react impulsively .
- They like routines and may find transitions uncomfortable. And, although they’re open to scheduling changes, at age 7, kids prefer consistency.
- This is the perfect time to teach your child the benefits of self calming strategies, (taking deep breaths; repeating phrases) to cope with uncomfortable emotions.
- At age 7, children start noticing the impact of their behavior on others and realize others have a similar awareness. They’re able to handle conflict independently and can begin working out solutions when conflicts arise, but may not always be successful. Via pbs.org