What Kris Jenner Can Teach You About Hidden Anger

I believe the Kardashians are the universal brand for all the self-absorbed, self-serving and emotionally detached people on the planet.

If psychologists studied their crazed and dysfunctional interactions they couldn’t, “keep up”; The family is a microcosm of histrionic pandemonium. Now, Kris Jenner has given the world another classic example of her rapidly shifting and shallow expressions of emotions. I refer to her ego-centered reaction to Bruce Jenner’s Transgendering as, “My car is on fire, and I’m trying to find a good radio station”.

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http://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/kris-jenner-responds-to-caitlyn-jenner-s-debut-calls-their-breakup-the-most-passive-aggressive-thing-she-ever-experienced-59685 Shortly after she made her big debut as Caitlyn Jenner, the woman once known as Bruce was met with an overwhelming amount of support from her family, fans and famous people alike. Speaking to Diane Sawyer, Caitlyn called Kris a “good person” and said, “Honestly, if she had been really good with it and understanding of it, we’d probably still be together” — but the mother-of-six’s interpretation of how things unfolded told a very different story. She calls their separation “the most passive-aggressive thing I think I’ve ever experienced.” “When I met Bruce, he told me that he had done hormones back in the early ‘80s,” she explains. “This was a conversation that took place in the early ‘90s. So, what he was telling me happened a decade earlier, and he never really explained it.” She continues, “Nobody mentioned a gender issue.” Caitlyn also says they had an honest conversation about cross-dressing, establishing rules that she could wear women’s clothing as long as she was outside the house when she was traveling alone. But the Keeping Up with the Kardashians star has no recollection of that talk. Explaining her only exposure to his cross-dressing came when “somebody mentioned that at one point in his life, he liked to dress up.” Read more…

 

The Signs Of Hidden Anger

Kris Jenner is angry and intertwined with her anger are feelings of resentment, rejection and thoughts of revenge. Kris avoiding her feelings may cause more emotional pain, dissatisfaction and neurosis in the future. Anger is a normal human emotion. But not expressing your angry feelings can be self-destructive. Concealed anger leads to problems in your personal and professional relationships as well as affecting the overall quality of your life. How do you deal with it? Do you express or suppress your angry feelings? Here’s a checklist of the hidden signs.

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  • Maybe Kris Jenner isn’t angry or shocked; maybe it’s just an act on her part, and she is secretly laughing at the audience: “Look at all those suckers out there wasting their time watching our stupid show.” But let’s suppose for the sake of argument that she really is angry. You pose a “How do you deal with it?” question but don’t suggest any possible courses of action. Just what should our heroine do, Pamela?

    • My intent for this post was to provide information about the,”signs of hidden anger”. Anger is a complex emotion and often, if not always, is the symptom not the cause of what someone is feeling. But,your comment is very helpful because it gives me an idea of topics that have meaning to my readers. How to manage and cope with angry feelings is an area I’ll definitely address. Thank you Andy. Also, if there are other topics you’d like to know more about please let me know.

  • I personally think that part of Kris Jenner’s behavior is that she has (in her eyes) been publicly humiliated. I bet she narcissistically feels that the world is judging her for being married to what turned out to be a woman. It makes it worse that Caitlyn is now saying that Kris somewhat knew about this. It becomes about her and not just her ex-spouse’s personal story in her own eyes.

    Needless to say, I think Kris Jenner is a perfect example of someone with hidden anger. I had a couple of the behaviors on your hidden anger checklist (though my stiff neck might be due to the fact that I had surgery on my neck so I’m not sure about that one).

  • Mahal Hudson

    Setting aside the controversy, I applaud him for doing what he thinks is good for him. He is his own person, mind and heart. Therefore, I can call this her own courageous way to live fiercely.

  • Catarina Alexon

    Pamela, I have no interest whatsoever in the Kardasians or in Kris Jenner’s sex change for that matter. Personally don’t think it’s important if people are homosexuals, bisexual, lesbians or transsexuals. Have had homosexual friends since the 80’s and aquiantances in the other categories. It’s frequently genetic. One homosexual friend of mine for instance has two brothers. One is also homosexual and the other a-sexual. His oncle is also homosexual. Who cares? What’s important is if he/she is a good person and interesting to have as a friend.

    • I agree Catarina. My intention was to highlight the Kris Jenner’s hidden anger towards her former husband. I feel the same way as you concerning a persons sexual orientation.

  • I try hard to avoid any exposure to this whole family and quite honestly wish they would disappear. They are a bad reality show that the networks should cancel.

    • The Kardashians are like a bad cold that never goes away.They all have a lot of unexpressed anger and pain.

  • Pamela, the Kardashians bore me. They were on the cover of a magazine in the checkout aisle and they all looked like they could use a good spanking (are psychologists into spanking?) – The hidden anger thing is definitely the way we were raised – “anger is bad so don’t express it”. I think as mature adults – most of us find our own way of getting rid of anger – unfortunately some have such deep anger they never are able to come to grips with it. I guess that’s where mental illness comes into play.

    • Your right Lenie, anger changes your view your place within the world.

  • You’re so right Susan. Nothing like good PR and narcissism.

  • Susan P. Cooper

    I get angry just thinking about the Kardashians and how they are famous enough for absolutely NOTHING. other than that I’m quite happy. Lol

  • Tim

    I remember a time when I went with some new friends on a road trip to Belgium. I was living in London at the time. OMG, I was so bored out of my mind with the conversation, the antics, and almost everything that I must have slept 80% of the time.

  • Beth – http://EncoreWomen.com

    I got rid of a lot of my anger when I divorced my first husband. I also ditched a lot when I moved away from my parents. All long ago. I am a happy person now and have been for years. It’s so much better to live tthis way. I have no interest in the Kardashians.

    • Letting go of anger is like unlocking a ball and chain cemented to your past. You’re one of the lucky ones who found the key.

  • Marquita Herald

    Well let me say that Donna is not the only one who has never seen the Kardashians. I am of course aware of what’s going on with Bruce Jenner because it would be hard to miss that, but otherwise I must confess I could really care less. That said, you’ve made an excellent point Pamela about the example of not-so-hidden anger but then these people seem to thrive on living in the public eye so I tend to believe Kris is probably not only aware of her anger but intentionally using the public’s bazaar obsession with their lives to get air her frustrations.

  • I must be one of the few people in North America who has not watched the Kardashians. Hidden or repressed anger can certainly be harmful to us. Most of us have been taught to keep anger in check and not taught how to effectively deal with it. I’m not sure I am completely in tune with my anger, but more aware now to examine my feelings to surface suppressed anger. Anger can be especially hard to deal with when there is no clear target for the anger, no one to blame for the situation.

    • You’re right Donna. Our anger is the tip of the iceberg. A symptom of what lies beneath.

  • Phoenicia

    Thought provoking post.

    Yes, the Kardashian family are extremely self absorbed but people all over the world (excluding me!) are feeding into it; watching their every move on Twitter, their awful fly on the walk programme and so on.

    As a teen I supressed all my feelings as I did not know how to deal with them. I was at war with myself and did not like ‘me’ very much. I was horrendously bullied at secondary school and a small part of me died every day. I was not strong enough to confront the bullies so focused on surviving each day.

    I can disclose this now as my past does not have a hold over me. I am no longer that weak, awkward looking girl. Now and then I become angry with myself for not standing up to the bullies but I cannot go back 25 years.

    • What a inspiration you must be to your family and friends, Phoenicia.

  • Yes, “free to be” a bunch of two-year-olds banging on our high chairs. : )

  • Jacqueline Gum

    True that…the poster children for self-absorption. And I am sure I also have a ton of repressed anger. Who doesn’t? It isn’t socially acceptable to rail against everything one finds offensive these days, right? Isn’t the new age thing acceptance of EVERYTHING???? Laugh!

  • Jeri, I’m sorry to hear you lived with hurt and pain. Some people think that when they’re angry at their partner they’ve fallen out of love. But the opposite of love is detachment. Anger toward your partner is hurt and pain turned inward. Anger and love are both strong emotions.

    • I hadn’t quite thought of it that way. Thanks for the insight.

  • Interesting list on hidden anger. I’m not surprised many of them apply to me, but apparently I’ve been suppressing a lot of anger over the years and it all became clear when my marriage went up in smoke.

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