Happiness: We’ve all had those days when we’d rather stick pins in our eyes than deal with anyone or anything. You know, those mornings when you wake up, and before you’re out of bed you’re feeling blue? Overnight it seems your life went from smooth sailing to rough seas. Perhaps it’s the state of the economy, world events, family matters, or McDonalds closing 700 restaurants. Whatever the reason, pessimism is pummeling your world and all your thoughts are negative. Struggling to break free of the doldrums you try to act happy but have no success; You feel stuck in an emotional dumpster.


The good news is achieving a happier state of mind doesn’t have to be hard.

Here are five tips to raise your spirits.

Life’s Little Pleasures: Have you ever noticed the first taste of a scrumptious desert is more memorable than your last bite? That’s because once something becomes familiar,even if it’s delectable, you stop paying attention. Throughout your day, make mental notes, or better yet, jot down in a notebook, the simple things that  give you pleasure. Your acknowledgment will heighten the experience, and you’ll begin to focus on the positive feelings they inspire.

More about creating happiness



Unexpected Kindness:

In a 2015 report on World Happiness,  worldhappiness.report,  psychologists found that one of the most powerful ways to alleviate depression was demonstrating kindness to others. While you’re hurrying to meet deadlines and complete endless to-do lists, offering someone unexpected kindness can be easy to forget. But, if you set a goal to perform an act of random kindness to a stranger, it will lift your spirits for hours, maybe days. Pgchollet-unexpected--kindness

Count Rooftops:

I know it sounds strange, but it’s more difficult to feel unhappy when you’re gazing up than when you’re looking down. So the next time you’re strolling down the avenue and feeling a bit blue, try looking up to improve your mood.  Please, be careful.


Thank-you Times Three:

Each day look for three situations where you can say thank-you. I don’t mean the polite type of thank-you when someone holds the door open or blesses you after you sneeze. Stop for a moment and think of the people you come in contact with on a daily basis. A receptionist, a bank clerk, a cashier, hostess or salesperson, anyone offering you assistance. Take a moment, make eye contact and thank them for their service. Happiness

Write Down The Good Things:

Researchers found that people who write down at least three good things that happened to them for one week showed a significant increase in happiness. In addition,they reported that people who wrote letters of gratitude to family and friends were happier for weeks. http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/pdfs/GratitudePDFs/2Wood-GratitudeWell-BeingReview.pdf pgchollet-gratitude

Have a banner day!



By | 2017-07-06T11:29:30+00:00 |Categories: Blog, Depression|Tags: |
  • “Overnight it seems your life went from smooth sailing to rough seas.”

    When I go to bed at night, I have 90%+ of the following day mapped out in my head, and I generally know ahead of time if that day will suck for one reason or another.

    If I’m going through a bad day, eating a favorite food may *slightly* lift my spirits. The only real way to dissipate the badness, I find, is to deal with what’s causing it. I take a deep breath and keep plugging away. On the other side of the badness, when it’s all over, I’m not sure I would say that I’m “happy” but I do feel a sense of satisfaction, which is sort of the same thing, right?

  • I love your attitude toward life. Full of positive energies.
    coming back to this post I would like to focus specially on the point you mentioned about kindness. I have always believed that an act of kindness never goes in vain. I wish to spread this message far and wide.
    Thanks for this post..

  • Tim

    I love the tip about looking up when feeling a little blue. My mother always used to say “stand tall” and I have used that approach throughout my life. You’re right, it works. Kind of makes you feel bigger and am guessing it is the same reason birds puff out their chests.

  • I hear over and over again that doing for others is really a secret for happiness. I’m imagining that their really is something to that. I went to a Quaker school growing up (I’m not personally Quaker) and service and volunteering was part of the curriculum. I would love to make that part of my life again.

    Thanks for the great tips for finding happiness!

  • Phoenicia

    I agree that being purposefully kind to others is good for the soul; whether a word of encouragement or an act.

    I may start to write down the things I have to be thankful for at the end of each day. Usually they are in my thoughts – much better on paper.

  • I agree with Lenie’s comment! These are great tips, and that picture of the dogs hanging out the car window is the perfect illustration of life’s little pleasures. How often we pass them by, when they’re right at our fingertips!

  • I agree Susan. I love the expression, “There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way”.

  • Pamela, you forgot to add one – “reading Pamela’s post and chuckling at the pictures will start the day off right”. But you are right on with your advice. Some mornings I wake up feeling really B……y and I refuse to get out of bed until that feeling leaves. Prayer helps overcome that nasty feeling. I like the one about random kindness and saying thanks – two things we can do more off.

    • Lenie,
      Awww, your comment on my images made my day. I’m glad you enjoy the pictures because I love creating them. I like the thank-you tip too. I added that because I know I can say, ‘thank-you” more often.

  • Hands down my mood lifter is taking my dog for a walk every evening. It tends to take us 40 minutes to walk the usual route and during that time I like to enjoy some of life’s little pleasures like the sun on my face or the gardens I pass by. It’s also a good time to listen to an audio book. I don’t check my phone either when out and about like that, which always works to left my mood. Being tethered to a SmartPhone is always a buzzkill.

    • I agree with putting the smart phone away. I think it’s good for the ego as well. I always think, “I can’t turn the phone off, what if someone tries to call”? More often than not, no one does. I’m not as important to get a hold of as I thought. : )

  • Love the images you used with this post. How can you not feel a little happy when you see the picture of those two dogs sticking their head out the window.

    • Thank you for mentioning the images Ken. As I told Lenie, I love creating them and my intent is to make someone smile. It’s nice to hear that’s working. 🙂

  • Marquita Herald

    Pamela these are not only great tips I love the images! I have to admit I rarely wake up in a sour mood, no matter how many McDonald’s may close, and at least in part I attribute that to 3 things. 1) I haven’t watched TV in 2 years and I read myself to sleep at night so I am pretty much always in a great mood when I nod off, and 2) I wake up looking at the beautiful face of my little dog Lucy who is quite often staring at me intensely (her way of getting me up and moving so I can take her for a walk) and 3) I make a habit of having my first cup of coffee on the deck looking out at the West Maui Mountains and the ocean. Kind of hard not to feel incredibly grateful with all that. 🙂

    • Thank you for the kind words Marquita. Yeah, I should have added, “live on Maui” as a tip, it’s so beautiful. My brother lives in Kailua, whenever I visit the mornings are my favorite time.

  • These tips are awesome.
    Thank you!
    Thanks for sharing x

  • Great suggestions. Many take us out of ourselves for a bit and more aware of the world around us. I’ve never heard the one about rooftops before and may have to try that.

  • Catarina Alexon

    Good suggestions. Personally find that if, for some reason I wake up in the middle of the night and create a problem out of something it works to stop myself and realize what I’m doing i.e. creating drama in my life. As far as I’m concerned gratitude is essential in life. Every day I send a quiet thank you for everything positive that happens. Even if it’s just a small thing like an orchid blooming again.

    • That’s beautiful Catarina. Do orchids bloom again? I’ve always wondered if they did.

  • Michele Harvey

    Your suggestions are very good ones. I especially resonate with the points about helping others and showing gratitude. These things definitely raise our spirits. A quote having to do with this in my book is, “Give to others what you wish to possess, and you will find that you have those things, you thought were out of reach.”

  • Beth – http://EncoreWomen.com

    Another thing to do to lift my spirits would be to read this blog post again! What great suggetions and I just love your graphics. Also your cover picture is so cool. Thanks for an uplifting read and I’ll try the roof tops too!

    • Awww, thank you Beth, I glad the post lifted your spirits. Yes, come back often.

  • Jacqueline Gum

    I love these tips! I have never tried looking up at rooftops, but that sounds like a winner…provided it’s not raining! When I read it I imagined seeing the blue skies all woven in between those roof tops and THAT made me smile:) I sometimes poo poo the idea that happiness is a choice because sometimes it just isn’t. But there ARE days when it is…and you’ve given me some great tips on how to make it that way! Very cool!

    • It’s hard to feign true happiness. You can’t look happy and not believe it. Yes, on rainy days looking up may not be the wisest choice. : ) I should have added that warning.


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