Coping with life starting to get your down. Raise your hand if you’ve ever had one of those, “I must be under someone’s wicked spell” weeks? Sometimes there are days when every phone call, piece of mail or social interaction is bad news. Keep you hand up if on top of that, any task or activity you begin ends with something breaking down, spilling over, leaking out or going up in flames. Oh good, we’re on the same page!
Coping: What is it?
…is what we think and do to manage the parts of the outside world or our inner world, that we’ve judged to be the cause of our stress and tension. External pressure comes from unexpected life events, the strain of ongoing and disappointing circumstances, and from everyday hassles. The internal causes of your stress and anxiety may have started with an illness, errors in thinking that resulted in problem behaviors or habits, and false beliefs about yourself or the world around you. There’s also a double whammy, what began as an outside stressor, such a rotten job, sooner or later can affect your health or your outlook on life. Similarly, poor health, problem behaviors or impaired thinking can worsen the impact of life events. The result is no matter where turn there’s a problem. Isn’t life grand?
Life happens, and events can pack a mean punch affecting us physically and psychologically. Heart disease, autoimmune disorders, anxiety–related disorders, interpersonal difficulties and depression can worsen or be the result of stressful events. What’s more, over time uneasy changes such as illness, lousy job, and financial difficulties slowly wear you down resulting in an inability to manage even minor mishaps. You know like on those mornings when spilling coffee makes you cry. Events such as natural disasters can ripple out affecting every relationship ad connection in your world. The after effects of a major earthquake, for example, may have you dealing with the death of a family member, friend or associate, losing your home job or physical injury.
More About Coping, Depression and Anxiety
Coping requires an accurate appraisal of the situation followed by using a combination of problem-focused coping skills and emotion-focused coping skills. Problem-focused coping is taking an action to do something about the stressful situation, for example, hiring outside to help manage your personal or professional responsibilities. People manage job-related stress with problem-focused coping skills. In emotion-focused coping, there’s nothing you can do to alter the outcome of the situation. so, you shift your focus and attempt to manage the emotional cost of stress in order to help maintain emotional balance. If you’re presently dealing with a health-related issue more than likely you’re coping using, emotion-focused coping skills. In addition, the quality, not the quantity of our social network plays a vital role helping us get through difficult times.
As we grow and develop we learn different styles for coping helping us navigate the rough seas encountered during our lifetime. But, no one is perfect, we have gaps in our knowledge, and some of our skills are stronger than others. The important thing to remember is that once you know your weak spots you can learn the necessary skills to feel more confident. Remember, your ability to cope with the problems that pop-up in your life depends on three levels of confidence.
1. Whether you ‘ll approach the situation or completely avoid it.
2. How much energy you expend to overcome the obstacles encountered trying to manage the event.
3. How long you persist before giving up.
When you don’t feel confident about your ability to handle the situation, you’re less likely to handle it at all. Knowing you’re equipped to meet the demands of life’s problems gives you the feeling of being in control of your life.
At some time or another we all experience stress and pressure in our life. Books, magazine articles and blogs focus on the adverse effects of life’s pressures. Strengthening your coping skills by learning new techniques and strategies is the key to keeping the ill effects of stress at bay. Meeting challenges head on instead of avoiding them because of the emotional pain can turn the negative effects of stressful events into a beneficial experience. Learning to cope with a wide range of problems builds confidence and the feeling you ‘re in control of your life. You’ll not only survive those stressful periods in your life, you’ll grow from them.
Have a banner day!